We do not have a tidy family dynamic. With divorce on both sides, we have step-parents and step-siblings all over the place. Some of these relationships have come easily, some have not, and some are still existing with a “complicated” status. Yet during a recent holiday as we found ourselves around many large family dinners, a beautiful thought occurred to me, no doubt placed there by the Holy Spirit: Our family has been grafted together, just as we have been grafted into the family of God.
The people of Israel were God’s chosen people, but they rejected Christ as their Messiah. From the very beginning of creation, God had a plan. Through that disarray of anger and death came an avenue for the non-Jewish nation (or Gentiles) to come into communion with the Holy God. We have been grafted into God’s family tree:
…even us whom he has called, not from the Jews only but also from the Gentiles? As indeed he says in Hosea, “Those who were not my people I will call ‘my people,’ and her who was not beloved I will call ‘beloved.’” “And in the very place where it was said to them, ‘You are not my people,’ there they will be called ‘sons of the living God.’Romans 9:24-26
What once was a place of despair and hopelessness for us is now a place of joy and thanksgiving. Our Savior has done exactly what he said he will always do: He has redeemed the brokenness caused by our sin and made it beautiful for His glory.
Not only does Jesus reestablish our place from outsider to accepted child of God through his sacrifice, but he continues to redeem us from the ongoing effects of sin. Divorce brings repercussions, even in the most amicable of separations. Whether you were the one who was left or the one living in the aftermath of another’s choices, God has a plan to rebuild what was lost. This is what Christ did for my family.
I have learned that it is not time that heals; it is Jesus that heals. Although things still remain a little complicated here, I’m incredibly thankful that we have a Heavenly Father who makes light out of the darkness. I’m thankful for our many parents and siblings who play and cuddle with our kids as if they are their own. Amidst the awkward silences and sometimes apparent efforts to avoid certain topics, there is grace and understanding that humans will be humans, and God is God.
“It is not time that heals; it is Jesus that heals.” Rachel Greening #family #parenthoodTweet
We fail each other. But God, in his infinite mercy, is there to fix what was lost and make it new again. Instead of lamenting for things to be different, or possibly longing for the way they were, our hearts can rejoice in knowing that nothing is beyond God’s attention and control. He ordained our days before our birth (Psalm 139:16), including those not-so ideal people and situations.
Dear sister, if you are finding it difficult to accept the disruption in your family tree, take a moment to see yourself as the outsider who was welcomed in. Praise the Lord with me for his divine plan in grafting us into his blessing and for the security we have in knowing no one can snatch us out of his hands (John 10:28). There is no greater joy than being in the family of God.
The Tangled Family Tree: Finding Redemption in the Blended Family • Guest Post • by Rachel Greening #BlendedFamily #Family #IfMyOakTreeCouldSpeakTweet
Rachel Greening is a University of Toronto graduate, mom of three, and author of the children’s book If My Oak Tree Could Speak. She has published with Just Between Us magazine (Spring 2022) and has been featured on websites such as Her View From Home and Mom Choice Awards. She is proudly Canadian and never too far from a cup of coffee. You can follow her on Instagram/Facebook @rachelgreeningwrites and rachelgreeningwrites.com.