Several of my girl-mom friends have recently shared on social media a video of a female referee holding a flag high in the air and standing strong as a male soccer player yells directly into her face. The referee holds steadfast to her call and doesn’t back up even an inch as the player continues with fierce intensity. Some time passes and eventually another referee (who happens to be a male) provides her relief and takes her place standing with his yellow card held high defending the call she made.
Many of my girl-mom friends have honed in on the strength of the woman in this video and have commented, “This is how we want to raise our girls.” And I can see why these moms would say this, because who wouldn’t want to raise a child who is able to stand for the right call without backing down.
But since I am a boy mom, my focus was drawn to the two men as I watched the clip. Because there was a stark difference in how they treated this woman as she stood for her right call.
The first man had no respect for the call made by the referee and from what I could tell in the small clip, he also seemed to have little self-control. But the second man willingly put himself in a position to share the burden of the woman defending the call. I do not believe he stepped in because she was weak or unable to handle the situation; it is obvious the lady is not lacking in this area. But the second man came because he knew standing in the face of someone yelling at you is hard and he wanted to help.
The question that boy moms should ask ourselves when we watch this short clip is, “How are we instructing our sons to react to and on behalf of people that God puts around them?”
As Christian moms, we desire for our young men to learn to respond like the second man—to respond in all situations with self-control and respect displayed towards all people. A man who stands in defense of what is right for another person when life feels out of control for them. Because we know life can be hard and even the strongest of people need someone to stand beside them.
For years I have been praying for my sons to develop godly character traits, and I know God is faithful to answer a mama’s prayers. But there is another benefit for parents as we pray for our sons’ character development. In praying, our focus is less on behaviors and more on the development of the lacking character trait (which is most likely the root of the behavior).
Below are 5 traits along with scripture-based prayers to use as a guide for us to pray for character development in our sons.
Like a city whose walls are broken through
is a person who lacks self-control.
Prayer: Lord, help my son to develop self-control to be able to stand against the attacks of the world. When situations or people react out of control, help my son to respond in a way that shows others he is Your child. May he remain in control like a fortified city because he is assured that You are sovereign over all situations.
Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.
1 Peter 2:17 (NIV)
Prayer: Lord, help my son to demonstrate respect to those in authority over him as well as his peers. May he not display respect based on preference or the merit of others, but to all people out of obedience to You.
Then you will understand what is right and just
and fair—every good path.
For wisdom will enter your heart,
and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.
Discretion will protect you,
and understanding will guard you.
Proverbs 2:9-11 (NIV)
Prayer: Grant my child wisdom to determine and to act in a way that is right, just and fair. Help him to make wise choices along the path of life and guard His heart with understanding.
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)
Prayer: Lord help my son to develop the strength and courage to stand for truth and do your will. When he begins to fear, help him to sense your presence with him. Let him rest assured in the fact that you will never leave him.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2 (NIV)
Prayer: Create in my son a heart that sees those in need and runs to help them. Give him the desire to stand beside and encourage those in the face of a hard circumstance.
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