My emotions fizzed like a sealed and shaken bottle of soda in the noon-day sun.
I’d swallowed lies as truth for too long, and three words broke the seal: “How are you?”
Mercy, how my throat ached while trying to cap my emotions. I prayed amiss when I asked God to help me get a grip.
She laid down her pencil and folded her hands, “Take your time.”
I released, “I know who God is, but who am I? I mean, I know I’m a wife, a mom, a daughter, a sister, a child of God, and all those things.”
Her words moved me forward, “Those words describe your relationship with others. What words describe you as a person?”
The words that came to mind were familiar. They were also unkind, and I didn’t want to share. At the same time, I wanted more than anything for them to not be true.
Choosing to trust God in that moment is one of the most memorable points on my journey toward healing. My chin quivered. “Weak. Stupid. Worthless. Failure.”
Her response flipped my world right side up, “Is that how God sees you?”
I didn’t believe God saw me the way I described. But I believed those words were true. The truth warred against the lies and the pressure was unbearable. The trouble was that I didn’t know how to discover the truth.
Sometimes we fall under the spell of actual words hurled at us. Sometimes we assume certain things are true about us based on how we are treated by others. Other times, comparison corrupts without one word directed our way. As followers of Christ, we are always in a battle against The Accuser, and words that wound are part of his arsenal.
My journey of untangling lies from truth and choosing to discover the me that God designed was long, hard, and the best thing that ever happened outside of salvation!
One thing helped me heal. I had a trusted sister-in-Christ who challenged me to seek God’s Word for what He says is true.
- The enemy said I was weak, but God says He gives me strength (Philippians 4:13).
- The enemy said I was worthless, but God says I am worth dying for (John 3:16).
- The enemy said I was stupid, but God says His wisdom is mine for the asking (James 1:5).
- The enemy said I was a failure, but God says in Christ I have victory (1 Corinthians 15.57).
The Holy Spirit still compels me to answer the question, “Is that truth?” when lies try to slip in.
I find that visual reminders are a great help, and my last birthday inspired an idea. The cover of a birthday card from my mom displayed the word daughter in silver glitter and spelled vertically. For each letter in daughter, a character trait was stated. For example: D for delightful, A for amazing, U for unique, etc. Reading that card reminded me of the journey toward the truth of what God says about me.
Here’s the challenge: Use your name as an acronym for truths from God’s Word. I used my name as an example.
Charla, in Christ you are:
Chosen (2 Thessalonians 2.13)
Healed (1 Peter 2.24)
Ambassador (2 Corinthians 5.20)
Redeemed (Ephesians 1.7-8)
Loved (Romans 8.35-39)
Alive (Ephesians 2.4-5)
Perhaps you need this reminder. Perhaps you know someone who needs to refute lies with truth. If so, get creative and gift them with a reminder of what God says about him/her.
Seek the truth, my friend. God promises the truth will set you free, and there are many who need The Opener to release bottled-up lies.
So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples,John 8:31-32 (ESV)
and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”